20 for 2020

01.5.2020

I started this post last year with "I usually hate New Years, but...". This year I'm going to come right out and say it: I hate New Years. All of January, really. It's cold, wet, and dark, without the joy and lights of Christmas. Bah, humbug.

Luckily I've given myself a lot to look forward to this winter. We're visiting my uncle and cousins in Napa at the end of January then jetting off to Cancun for my birthday, both of which I'm so excited for. Wedding planning has also given me a lot to do and look forward to, which takes my mind off of winter. I'm lucky that our families don't have a lot of expectations or requests, so our wedding is basically a big party I get to throw for all our friends and family with a huge budget. I get to make it exactly what I want, which makes planning...honestly a joy. It's also been great to plan with my mom - she's really hyped about the wedding, and it's been so fun to spend more time with her trying on dresses, tasting cakes, and picking out earrings. I think having a project we both work on is great, and I mostly wish I could have another wedding after this one!

Speaking of post-wedding life, one thing on my mind for 2020 is how there are a finite number of these big 'life changes' you can have: graduate from high school, graduate from university, move, travel, get married, get a dog, have babies, start a new job. We're starting to run low on exciting life changes, particularly given we don't want to have kids for at least a few more years, and I worry that our life will settle into a rut in the meantime. While 2020 will be 'The Year of the Wedding' (and hopefully 'The Year Elizabeth Warren Becomes President'), it'll also be the start of our lives post-wedding. I don't have a resolution for this, but I hope I can find things to be meaningful and memorable after the wedding. I want to have a life in between getting married and having kids, and there isn't really an example I've seen of what that might look like. Just working and occasionally travelling? If that's what I want to do, great! I only want to avoid putting my life in cruise-control, and live out these last kid-less years as much as I can.

On that note....the things I want to do in 2020:

  1. Get married!
  2. Train myself to sleep on my back. I'm currently a side-sleeper, and I can feel how it's starting to affect my posture and shoulders.
  3. Submit a crossword to the NYT
  4. Go to at least 5 spanish meetups
  5. Run a sub-7 minute mile
  6. Sign up for my own health insurance
  7. Get a new bike
  8. Host board games with friends at least 3 times
  9. Take 2 hikes in Portland that I've never done
  10. Fill up a notebook with notes from work
  11. Figure out what to do after the wedding
  12. Volunteer at least 3 times
  13. Meditate before bed 5 days per week
  14. Go camping for the first time
  15. Start composting
  16. Zero plastic to-go utensils or containers
  17. Read a science fiction book
  18. Send a letter in the mail
  19. Buy an ornament on our international trips
  20. Go to a concert